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Vol. 8, No. 7
The Fourteen Percenter
November
2005
A publication for parents on the wrong
side of the standard possession order.
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I see my child two days out of every
fourteen; That’s14%. That's not enough!
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Responses
and Rebuttals |
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Washington
Post columnist William
Raspberry has written several
articles lately about the importance
of men in the lives of their
children. A column in late September
was entitled, “Poor Women's
'Magical Outlook,'”
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The Sherman Herald-Democrat
(Texas) ran
this comment on October 4, 2005: |
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Children
are losers in custody battles |
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"A
question of why for single mothers"
(9- 25-05) left several questions
unanswered.
Many people do not question
the law that says a non-custodial
parent (usually the dad) must
pay 20 percent of his income
for child support. Perhaps they
assume the custodial parent
(usually the mom) contributes
20 percent as well.
Think for a minute - What married
couple spends 40 percent of
their combined income on their
child?
The 20 percent the divorced
dad must pay is a real incentive
to battle for custody - in 90
percent of custody orders, the
mom "wins" (i.e. the
children lose).
The automatic assumption of
child support is a serious incentive
to divorce. Perhaps this is
why so many poor women opt for
single motherhood.
Children need both parents.
The automatic presumption of
50/50 shared parenting would
benefit children. 50/50 shared
parenting would remove the incentive
to divorce as well
Don Mathis, Sherman |
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The Denver Post ran an
opinion piece about the small
salary given to prisoners for
their thankless labor,
. On September 27, the Denver
Post published this letter:
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The problem with imprisoning debtors |
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Re:
"Wages unfair in prisons,"
Sept. 23 Reggie Rivers column.
Thanks to Reggie Rivers for
his revealing column about prison
labor. An absurdity he didn't
bring up is the number of men
in prison for failure to pay
child support. Several wise
judges have realized the futility
of incarcerating men when they
are dead broke - prisoners cannot
possibly pay any real form of
child support.
In a future article, perhaps
Rivers could explore the injustice
of modern-day debtor's prisons,
in which we jail parents who
cannot pay the state's arbitrary
amount of child support. More
than money, children need both
parents.
Don Mathis, Sherman, Texas |
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Request
for Articles |
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The Fourteen
Percenter is an international
newsletter that seeks to promote
equal parenting rights in the
US, the UK, and worldwide. We
welcome feedback, as well as
any article, poem, or review
relating to the child-parent
bond. Send your letters to
The Fourteen Percenter,
1800 W. Washington Street #
202, Sherman, TX 75092 or
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for San Antonio printing. |
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Reconsider
- Breaking the Silence |
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A new Public
Broadcasting Service documentary,
was broadcast on
October 20, 2005
.The press release,
, is so full of inaccuracies
and innuendoes that I fear the
program itself will bring discredit
to PBS and their affiliates.
Think about the noncustodial
parents you know - most
are probably fathers, and
they probably are not violent
or bad; their only fault is
being male. If decent dads
cannot get custody, how is it
that abusers are winning
custody of their children?
Are the producers not aware
that in many divorces, women
often use false allegations
of violence in an effort to
gain custody? Such abuse of
the courts can only result in
an ending such as in "The
Boy Who Cried Wolf" (see
if
you don't remember the moral).
The press release also attempts
to discredit Parental Alienation
Syndrome (PAS). Did you
ever consider why generations
of 'decent' White folk grew
up suspicious of Blacks?
Could it be because they were
raised that way? It is a simple
thing to fool a child (and shame
be upon the man or woman who
does). PAS is real and the consequences
are far more damaging then racial
prejudice.
Perhaps PBS considers child
abuse as separate from domestic
violence. Believe it or
not, women are more often
the perpetrators of child abuse
and infanticide than men.
According to the US Department
of Health & Human Services
Child Maltreatment 2003:
Summary of Key Findings,
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"Female
perpetrators, who were mostly
mothers, were typically younger
than male perpetrators, who
were mostly fathers. Women also
comprised a larger percentage
of all perpetrators than men:
58 percent compared to 42 percent."
In response to numerous letters
and calls received by PBS stations
nationwide, Columbus, Ohio,
affiliate WOSU will broadcast
the opposing side. Viewpoint
will offer viewers a chance
to express concerns surrounding
the program Breaking the
Silence: Children's Stories.
Don Hubin, Director of the Columbus
Chapter of Parents and Children
for Equality (PACE,
) and Columbus attorney Doug
Dougherty, Chairman of the Family
Law Committee of the Columbus
Bar Association, will appear.
Viewpoint will air at 7:30 p.m.
Friday, Nov. 4, and 10:30 a.m.,
Sunday, Nov. 6, 2005, in the
Columbus area.
In late October, the Houston
PBS station broadcast Connections,
a debate on the legitimacy of
Parental Alienation Syndrome
and the documentary, “Breaking
the Silence.” Dr. Reena Sommer,
internationally recognized divorce
consultant
; Andy Sperling, director of
the Fathers for Equal Rights
in Houston, and others clarified
that Parental Alienation Syndrome
is not “junk science” as portrayed
in the earlier program.
To add further discredit to
“Breaking the Silence,” one
of the ‘heroic moms’ in the
‘documentary’ has been found
to have a long documented history
of child abuse. Glenn Sacks
reported that Sadia Loeliger,
one of the central characters
in “Breaking,” was portrayed
as the victim of anti-mother
bias in the courts.
“It’s
amazing that PBS and the filmmakers
decided--despite repeated warnings--to
nationally televise Sadia and
her claims,” said Sacks. “Not
only were there clear Juvenile
Court findings of her abuse
of Fatima (Sadia’s daughter)
and also of Fatima's cousin
Sara, who lived with Sadia,
but we have extensive testimony
from Sadia's babysitter, Sara,
and several mental health professionals
about Sadia's violence.”
Letters to local and national
PBS stations, such as the one
following, may result in other
positive programming. |
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Dear Station
Manager,
I have heard that a PBS special,
"Breaking the Silence:
Children's Stories," will
be broadcast on your station.
From the press release I read,
this film presents a view of
child abuse that is the opposite
of the truth. In "Breaking
the Silence," men are portrayed
as monsters and child abusers.
Yet most studies that
I've read indicates mothers
are the perpetrators of child
abuse in more than 60 percent
of the cases.
"Breaking the Silence"
will contribute towards the
problem of violence toward children,
of fatherlessness, of judicial
abuse; not the solution.
Please take a minute to read
the poem below. "Monster
Mommies," by Kristiana
Colegrove, addresses the tragedy
of the true perpetrators of
child abuse.
I ask that you please not air
"Breaking the Silence."
If you feel you must air
this program, please include
a period of time at the end
to broadcast opposing viewpoints
such as mine.
Thank you. The Fourteen Percenter
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Monster
Mommies |
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The last thing these children
saw before they were killed was
the first face
they saw when they were born.
It’s a treason on life.
It’s omission of the agreement
sworn in for creation.
When the baby breathes first breath
you are obligated to be the soft
be the welcome be the guide into
this journey, this world.
The Universe granted precious
gifts.
Children.
Our society is shocked into watching
shocked into acceptance.
Court TV produces and profits.
Can’t believe the Monster Mommies
get to live.
Benefits, cable, 3 meals a day.
The blood from their babies is
not dry.
To claim their God “demanded”
it.
That they were “depressed” to
get off to get life. |
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SERIOUSLY WRONG.
How the tears keep coming long
wails of grief. Wishing to wrap
those kids in safety so they’d
never know such fear such horror.To
see our boysplay in the sunshineand
feel the force of joy. It is
incomprehensible how distorted
that could be. To turn playtime
into homicide. How many more
Monster Mommies are there? I
want to crush drown suffocate
and starveall the Monster Mommies.
Search them out whiletucking
into beds closing closets kissing
goodnight hiding behind Band-Aids.
Search them out so they will
all be gone.
(Kristiana Colegrove) |
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Letters
to your local paper, such as
this one from the Oct. 30 issue
of the Sherman (TX) Herald-Democrat,
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can put some control on the
damage inflicted by shows like
“Breaking.” |
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Abusers not all men |
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On Oct.
20, a PBS documentary, “Breaking
the Silence: Children's Stories,”
was broadcast. This program
cast a dark light on all fathers
everywhere.
“Breaking the Silence” portrayed
men as monsters and child abusers.
It ignored the fact that women
are more often perpetrators
of child abuse.
In fact, as the program aired,
another TV channel broadcast
stories about a regional woman
who shook her child to death,
and a California woman who drowned
her children.
Natural birth-fathers are protectors
of their children - contrary
to the message in “Breaking
the Silence.” Yet men are often
hindered in protecting their
children because the media likes
to portray them as evil.
Programs such as “Breaking the
Silence” will contribute toward
the problem of violence toward
children, of fatherlessness,
and of judicial abuse.
A battered spouse, such as those
in the PBS special, can opt
to leave an abusive relationship.
A child has no such option.
People need to learn that women
are more violent towards children
than men. Only when we admit
the problem can we do something
about it. And child abuse is
something we must address. |
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A letter in the same issue of
the Herald-Democrat, addresses
an issue of concern to all Texans: |
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Drop
Divorce Incentive |
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On
another subject, contrary to
popular opinion, Proposition
Two in the upcoming Texas election
is not about the sanctity of
marriage. If people were concerned
about strengthening marriage,
they should tell their legislators
to remove the incentive to divorce.
Child support
is ordered in almost every divorce,
regardless if both parents work.
Custody is split 86/14 in almost
every divorce, regardless if
both parents are fit. Most people
are not aware that our Attorney
General gets $1 from Washington
for every $8 of child support
he is ordered to collect. Income
from child support is a big
incentive for the state to maintain
the high rate of divorce.
Fifty-fifty
shared parenting, and no one
pays anyone child support, should
be the presumption in every
custody decision. The incentive
to divorce would be removed.
Even if a couple decides to
divorce, children will benefit
from equal time with both parents.
Don Mathis,
Sherman |
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Such letters
may have an effect on our public
officials. Or they may just
elicit a denial such as this
missive from the Office of the
Texas Attorney General: |
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Thank
you for contacting Attorney
General Greg Abbott about your
child support concerns. Your
email has been forwarded to
me for response. In the case
of divorces, the Child Support
Division either enforces support
established in the court order
or in the event support isn't
covered and a party requests
it be set, the office may file
an intervention to establish
child support. State guidelines
for child support and visitation
are set for the circumstance
in which parties can not agree
on other arrangements. In cases
where special visitation is
arranged, such as a 50/50 custody
split, the parties and court
would make a decision on the
matter of child support.
Noel Jones,
, Written Inquiries Section,
Office of the AG |
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