Dear Legislators
and Concerned People,
Please
read the below letter written
by a women who's conscience
got the better of her about
the lies that are told every
day to "WIN" in
Divorce.
This is
a true example of what many
women are told to do.
Men are destroyed financially,
emotionally, physically and
mentally through the current
system. Suicide is many
men's choice of justice.
Please
stand up and say "ENOUGH".
Stop the rot being given to
the States Children and mostly
Fathers.
SUPPORT
HB529 AND PASS IT "NOW".
15 Merrimack
St, Nashua.
From A.
Barron's monthly Newsletter
How men get shafted - Confessions
of a divorcing wife.
By X Files, June 2005
http://forum.dadsontheair.com/viewtopic.php?t=3351&start=0&postdays=0&postorder=asc&highlight
As I write this, I am aware
that I am probably going to
offend some readers, but,
then again, I have found that
we in society are afraid and
unaccepting of the truth,
therefore taking offence.
I cannot apologize for what
I am about to say, however
I can only hope to attempt
to undo the wrong that I have
done.
To start with, here is a little
bit about myself. Before
I was married, I was an extreme
feminist, with the hopes and
dreams of equality, having
the same thoughts and beliefs
as others in the fight for
true equality. It wasn't like
the feminists of today, who
only want to gain complete
control, power, and to have
revenge, destroying everything
that the true feminists have
fought so hard for (true gender
equality). It is my
hope that by posting my story
and comments, that it will
encourage other women, (we/you
know who you are), to come
forward and to tell the truth
about themselves and their
experience. Here is my story,
as shameful as it may be.
I am a single mother of two.
When I decided to leave my
marriage, (I was bored), I
went to three different lawyers
for advice. I was asked
by all 3 of them if I was
ever abused by my husband.
My answer was, never in any
way shape or form was my husband
abusive towards me.
To my utter disbelief, all
of them told me the same thing.
Unless I accused my husband
of abuse, I would not gain
sole custody of my children.
They also told me that by
making these allegations against
him, that I would get EVERYTHING
and more. When I asked
them how we would prove the
allegations, I was told that
the courts don't require proof,
and to go to a women's shelter,
and that they would help me,
and that it would support
my allegations of abuse.
Having been brought up in
a very religious family, I
was very uncomfortable with
this advice. I was then told
by the lawyers, that if I
wanted the full support of
legal aid, I had no choice
but to make the allegations
against my husband. Having
no money to pay for legal
expenses, I did as I was advised.
Reluctantly I took my children
to a women's shelter.
I couldn't believe what I
was seeing. On the outside,
it appears as they want the
public and their funders to
see it. This is however,
far from the truth.
This place was a form of a
cult, (for lack of a better
term). Male bashing
was a top priority, and the
administration was very adamant
about recruiting yet another
woman (me), to join this man-haters
club. They even have a game
plan on how to win in court.
By following their simple
plan step by step, I would
not only get sole custody
of my children, but also the
car, house and land, plus
finances for the rest of my
life.
However, if I did not follow
their game plan, but if I
played fairly, I would lose
everything, and I would be
endangering the lives of other
women, and would jeopardize
any funding for them.
The administration must have
noticed that their brain washing
techniques were not working
as fast as they wanted, so
I was 'thrown' at the other
women staying there.
Terms such as 'sperm donors',
and that all men were abusive
and must die, were used on
a daily basis. They
were very convincing, and
not wanting to jeopardize
my fellow house mates, I went
along with their game plan.
As soon as I said that I would
follow their game plan, things
moved very quickly. I saw
the man that I was once married
to destroyed emotionally,
financially and physically.
I was granted sole custody
of our children, and because
of a restraining order, I
gained the house and car,
so that our children wouldn't
lose everything that they
were used to.
Not only was there a restraining
order against him, he was
also charged with assault.
The man who had equally created
our children, helped raise
them, and who loves them dearly,
was ordered to stay away from
them, and to pay me, (more
than I ever needed), support
for them. Like I said,
I destroyed him, leaving him
with very little to survive.
My brother is now going through
a custody battle, where my
former sister-in-law is playing
exactly the same game that
was taught to me by a women's
shelter, and my brother is
in the same shoes that I once
put my ex in.
Knowing how I destroyed my
ex, and seeing the wrong that
I had committed, I have made
it my personal endeavor to
help my brother with his fight.
He recently joined a men's
group, and he receives messages
on the net from shared parenting,
epoc_news etc.
As he was thrown out of his
home, he now lives with me,
which gives me the opportunity
to read the messages from
these groups. I must admit,
sometimes there is a message
or two that is of great help,
but for the most part, these
groups have to stop playing
'Mr. Nice Guy'.
Finally a woman with a conscience,
though it only comes out after
her brother is put though
the same hell.
All the lawyers
I have interviewed behind
closed doors ALL have said
this is out of control and
they always use the exact
phrases "Give them out
like candy" and "don't
want to appear on the six
o'clock news" in these
discussions. This clearly
shows that they are all
aware of this abuse of the
system and discuss it.
Judges are breaking the law,
and their oath, every day
for personal self-interest.
Since both judges and lawyers
are sworn to uphold and improve
the system, and judge swear
not be e influenced by these
outside pressures, they
are both breaking their oath
allowing this to happen every
single day.
In my interviews every lawyer
I talked to said that between
50% and 95% of restraining
orders are bogus. Clearly
showing this law does far
more harm than good.
It is literally true today
that in front of most judges
all any woman has to
do to strip a man of his constitutional
rights to his children, home
and possessions is to say
the word "fear".
Nothing has to have ever happened.
There need not even be an
accusation that something
happened. Only the fear and
"expectation" from
woman that something might.
This is called "spectral
evidence" and was outlaws
after the Salem witch trials
because it is impossible to
disprove.
What has our country come
to where the due process,
evidence and jury trial required
to insure the rights of the
accused is required? This
is morally revolting and is
destroying millions of men
and their relationships with
their children purely for
the financial benefit women
gain through this lies without
and worry of prosecution.
It is time to fix this massive
problem. These false
restraining orders are hurting
millions of children nationally
for the financial benefit
of women and lawyers.